Talk-show host and professional how-you-doin-er Wendy Williams has once again found herself the hot topic this week after making some homophobic comments about gay men, dresses, and menstruation.
On Thursday's episode of The Wendy Williams Show, she asked her studio audience who would be celebrating Galentine's Day—the female- and friendship-centric alternative to Valentine's Day popularized by the sitcom Parks and Recreation.
Williams then got "offended" when some of the men in the audience clapped in approval before going on a mini-tirade about gay men appropriating traditionally female clothing.
"Well, first of all, if you're a man and you're clapping, you're not even a part of this," Williams said. "You don't even understand the rules of the day. It's women going out and getting saucy and then going back home. You're not a part."
"I don’t care if you’re gay," she continued, apparently responding to an audience member. "You don’t get a [menstrual period] every 28 days. You can do a lot that we do, but I get offended by the idea that we go through something you will never go through. And stop wearing our skirts and our heels. Girls, what do we have for ourselves? You’ll never be the woman that we are, no matter how gay.”
Yikes. Why all this unnecessary acrimony over the fake holiday parody of an actual fake holiday? Of course, Williams' ire runs deeper than that, as she seems wholly offended by the blurring of gender lines in general. Though her view of what constitutes womanhood is, to say the least, reductive.
While she initially seemed to double down on her comments later in the Thursday show, by Friday morning Williams had issued an apology, saying that she "didn't mean to offend my LGBTQ+ community" and promising to "do better":
Whatever, sis. If we want to talk about appropriation, Williams has been stealing from the gay community for years, just as gay men have been stealing from women, particularly black women, for decades. We're all appropriating one another, and it creates a common language and, one hopes, a common understanding. But that's not the same as allyship.
Just because Williams speaks in kiki, loves her lace-fronts, and traffics in other gay signifiers doesn't mean that she actually, truly cares about the LGBTQ+ community. Lest we forget when Drag Race alum Detox pulled the receipts out on her past homophobia and her treatment of Caitlyn Jenner during her transition.
It's real cute to be sassy and saucy, but let's not confuse that with the work and genuine empathy that go into being a gay icon or an advocate. Sometimes a vast wig collection just isn't enough.